As a reader so aptly pointed out, trying to have a No Spend Year when I’m clearly not ready to stop spending money is setting myself up for failure. On the surface, she was right. Setting unrealistic goals is never a good thing. It leads to guilt, self deprecation and the all around feeling of failure. And, if you take the words ‘no spend’ literally, you don’t buy anything. However, my “No Spend Year” wasn’t literal. It was supposed to be a “….no spend on mindless stuff that doesn’t matter and doesn’t help me meet my goal year“. But if this reader thought this, there may be others who feel the same way. I don’t want to come off as inauthentic, so I decided to clear this up for everyone.
My original post about a No Spend Year included this paragraph:
To be clear, this challenge isn’t about deprivation. It’s not about sucking the joy out of every day. It’s the opposite. It’s about spending money on what matters most – my health and wellbeing, my husband, my family, my friends. In fact you may be surprised as to what I actually am able to spend money on with this challenge, which makes it very different from what a typical ‘no spend’ has been.
As long as I continue to be mindful of my purchases (and not have to declutter them in six months), I will be keeping my goals intact. Simply put, I will not feel guilty for buying a purse or anything else that makes me happy and doesn’t take away from goals that I have set. As long as it meets my criteria of an intentional purchase, I can pay for it, and not have to borrow money, it will be acceptable. The purse was somewhat of an impulse purchase, I’ll admit, but I never said this year was going to be perfect. Baby steps. It did stay in my cart on the Fossil Website for a week. I still wanted it, so I purchased it. Next time I’ll wait 30 days. 😉
Going forward, I’ve decided it’s best not to use the term ‘No Spend’. I agree that it’s too confusing, and doesn’t convey what I intend. So it’s out. (In fact, I went ahead and corrected all of my other posts).
I hope this helps.
Happy March everyone!